Luke15:1-3, 11b-32
This story tells us everything we need to know about how the world works when we live by God’s vision. Everyone welcome all the time. The people who heard Jesus tell this story would have been horrified at the younger son’s behavior. They may well have known someone who acted that way, but they still would have been horrified. The son dishonored the father by asking for his inheritance and by squandering it on wine, women and song. He clearly showed his family that he had no love for them. He only wanted the money and high times and in a far off place. How heart-broken the father must have been, first that money mattered more than family, and then that he had no word about his son’s well-being for probably years.
How does he react? He gives the son what he asks for and then he waits for him to come home. We know he waits because he was watching for the son, seeing him while he’s still far down the road. He had to be watching to see him so soon. Every day for years, watching and hoping the son would be back.
The son is well-rehearsed, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and you…” but he doesn’t get to give the speech he’d been repeating mile by mile. He’s bathed and given new clothing and honored with a ring and a feast. Everyone celebrates. What do we learn from that? People matter. For the father, the son mattered more than the insult he’d given. He never mentions the pain of their parting. The son matters more than logical consequences. He doesn’t say, “You can come back as a hired hand. Move to the barn.” The son matters more than the rules. He doesn’t say, “Have you learned your lesson? You can work but there’s no more inheritance for you. I’ll draw up the contracts.” The father simply says, “Let’s have a party and celebrate.”
This parable is called the prodigal son, after the son who blew his inheritance. It’s also sometimes called the forgiving father, because forgiveness is at the heart of the story. Forgiveness puts the relationship between father and son first – before consequences, before payback. There is no retribution here. People matter. Relationships matter. Did they have a lot to talk over and work through the next day? Probably. But that’s not where the father started. He began with “Welcome home!”
These days we hear a lot about how the world should work, and much of it feels a little off to me. I’m not sure how to explain how God wants people to be valued and how I want people to connect with each other. This story is a gift in that regard. Here it is clearly laid out for us: Welcome!
You didn’t come from here? Welcome!
You didn’t finish school? Welcome!
You’ve made some bad choices and struggle with addiction? Welcome!
You can’t afford health care? Welcome!
You’re behind in your rent? Welcome!
You’ve been in jail? Welcome!
You worship on Friday? Welcome!
You joined the young Republicans? Welcome!
You don’t fit the President’s abbreviated genders? Welcome!
You can’t tell a joke or carry a tune? Welcome!
Come right on in. You matter to us. We’ll figure out the hard stuff later.
The older brother isn’t having any of this, you’ll note. He’s been keeping track. With his brother gone he did twice the work. He’s been reliable and responsible. The father OWES him. Where’s his party? He’s not having any of this forgiveness stuff. He’s pouting on the porch. What he really wants is retribution. Give the guy what he deserves…nothing! Make him pay. Make him earn his way back into the family. Make him grovel.
Much of the time the world is on the older brother’s side. But it doesn't have to be. This isn’t a long history of how a family heals after trauma. It’s not a record of therapy which helps them learn to trust each other again. It’s not the whole story of how they rebuild relationships. It’s a starting point. What we need more than anything is better starting points. We need to say to each other, “You matter.” Then we can put things together so they work.
When we give funds through the community fund, we don’t say to people, “Live any way you want, we’ll pay for it.” We expect them to have a case worker and a plan for becoming independent, working, paying their way. But first we say, “You matter. We’ll give you a better starting place.”
We have a broken immigration system in this country. There’s not much energy for saying, “Everyone can be here, no matter what.” But it is possible to say, “You matter. You’ve been my neighbor. Let’s figure out how we move forward.”
The news is full of folks wanting to divide us. Some countries are free-loaders. Some people are lazy. Let’s throw them all out and keep what’s ours. If they hurt me, they have to pay! Here’s the story that shows us another way. First we connect. Then we work things out. Most of all we say to strangers, to those who are different, to you and to me: Welcome home!